Conundrums

If you fail, you learn

A friend once told me:

“Not everything that you wanted & worked hard for is always meant to be yours… somehow you lose. But when you lose, there will come a better one that you surely deserve more than anything”

This for me is a truly inspiring quote. The problem is: you’ll never know what is really meant to be yours. You work hard at everything only to fall into the bitter end. Let’s face it; life doesn’t always take us to a happy ending. Oftentimes, fate gives a mischievous move. Ironically, these instances make our lives worth living. These instances are the things that make us stronger and wiser. We all get our own dose of failures may it be in love, work, life and relationships.  And I can only but marvel of how man can handle such problems with ease and move on to face another day.

What is my take on this matter?

Our life is a mish mash of different misfortunes tangled together sprinkled with a bunch of freaks and inconsiderate people. It may be a bummer 99% of the time but that doesn’t mean we have to stop living. It only proves to say that we have to work even harder to make the best of every second of it and if that means taking risks, then so be it. If you fail it’s not the end of everything, in fact for every risk that you take there’s a 90% chance that you would fail (“suntok sa buwan” as we Filipinos call it). But what the heck, it is better to have tried than to sit and do nothing.

If you see yourself as a failure, if you think you’re not worth it, if your heart was broken into pieces by a good-for-nothing jerk, if you feel like no one appreciates you and you have come to the point where you’ve considered taking away your own life, don’t expect me to stop you. Just keep in mind that when you die, the world will not stop to mourn. Life itself would not yield just because you chose to end yours. You will never witness how Karma gets back on those who hurt you; you will never get to appreciate the marvelous twists and turns waiting for you for tomorrow.

A man once killed himself because he is depressed that he’s out of money. Found in his pocket were a candy wrapper, a pen, and winning lottery ticket for that night’s draw. Had he been strong enough to hold on just for another day, he would have found the solution to his problems.

As I’ve said before, our life is a mish mash of different misfortunes. Everyone fails at something. You just have to deal with it, take life one day at a time and remember that: If you fail, you learn.

Smile, live, and be happy.